Winter’s shorter days, chilly air, and snowfall, seems like nature’s way of telling us to rest, retreat, and reset. While this seasonal slowdown is restorative and necessary, it often doesn’t align with the natural tendencies of extroverts. For some extroverts, staying home could mean being alone, and solitude doesn’t always feel restful. Extroverts draw energy from being around others; too much isolation can leave us not just lonely, but also drained and lacking the drive and vitality that connection provides.
I’m writing this blog specifically for extroverts because, as one myself, I’ve noticed a gap in mental health resources tailored specifically to extroverts. There’s plenty of advice for introverts, thoughtfully helping them navigate life’s challenges; but, extroverts often seem overlooked. Maybe it’s because we appear upbeat and well-adjusted in social settings, making it hard for others to notice when we’re running on empty. But, just because the nature of being an extrovert makes it difficult for others to see our lack of energy doesn’t mean our struggles are any less real or that they don’t deserve attention. I don’t intend to paint all extroverts with the same brush. Being extroverted doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy alone time. I enjoy some solo time to catch up on my favorite shows or read a book without interruption. But the common denominator is that, for most extroverts, a moment of solitude is enjoyed sparingly, and best sandwiched between quality time with your favorite people.
This blog is for those extroverts who feel a twinge of anxiety as winter approaches—the ones who worry about how the season’s natural tendency toward stillness and isolation might impact their energy and mood. If you’re someone who thrives on connection and finds joy in the company of others, winter can feel more challenging than comforting. My goal is to provide you with a toolkit to navigate these months and keep your energy and spirit intact.
Proactively Plan Recurring Social Activities
The key word here is “recurring.” Knowing that you have social time scheduled into your life can take a huge load off of the worry an extrovert may experience. You can organize gatherings with friends and family that you can anticipate, giving meaning to this season. This could look like a monthly book club, Sunday dinners, weekly coffee dates, or anything else that aligns with your values and interests. Even if you plan a social activity a week to look forward to, you might notice a difference in your mood. This can give you the energy you need to push through the quiet days of winter.
Leverage Community Events
Here’s the thing about winter: businesses and community organizations also feel the brunt of it. The more time people spend retreating and being cozy in their homes, the less they are patronizing businesses or being proactive in their community. Because of this, community spaces are intentional about creating different programming and activities to lure people out. Check out some local winter artist’s markets, art classes, local workshops, or seasonal pop-ups at restaurants, bars, and coffee shops. An additional way to utilize your community is to find a meaningful space to volunteer. You can invite a friend to enrich your existing relationship, or use the time to meet new people and make connections.
Utilize Technology for Connection
Technology can be a lifeline for extroverts during the winter months, offering endless ways to stay socially connected despite physical barriers. Use video calls to catch up with friends or family, turning casual chats into virtual coffee dates. Host online game nights or watch parties to recreate the fun of in-person gatherings from the comfort of your home. Social media platforms can also help maintain a sense of community—consider joining interest-based groups or engaging with like-minded people in online forums. While digital interactions aren’t a perfect substitute for face-to-face connection, they can be a valuable tool to bridge the gap and keep your social energy flowing.
Embrace the Alone Time
I know this sounds counter productive after I spent time explaining that alone time can be draining for an extrovert. However, learning to embrace it can be an opportunity for growth and self-care. Start by reframing solitude as a chance to recharge and connect with yourself, rather than as a loss of connection with others. Use this time to explore hobbies or interests that bring you joy—whether it’s journaling, cooking, or learning something new. Practice mindfulness or meditation to become more comfortable in your own company.
Creating a cozy and inviting environment can also make alone time feel more restorative; light a candle, play your favorite music, or enjoy a warm drink as you unwind. Finally, remember that solitude doesn’t have to mean complete isolation—writing letters, planning future social events, or reflecting on meaningful relationships can keep your extroverted nature engaged while still allowing you to find balance in quiet moments.