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The Four Horseman of the Apocalypse Part: 2
In couples’ therapy, there are the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse that lead to relationships ending. These include Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. We’ve discussed the first two already, and the third and fourth of these are Defensiveness and...
The Four Horseman of the Apocalypse Part: 1
In couples’ therapy, there are the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse that lead to relationships ending. These include Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. Research has shown that these have negative impacts on a couple’s ability to resolve conflict and...
But Mom, I Look Like You
I remember the comments that seemed so ordinary at the time. Complaints in front of the mirror. Asking “does this dress make me look fat?" Pictures being avoided. Laughing off compliments. Criticizing wrinkles, cellulite, stomachs, thighs, or the way age had changed a...
The Paradox of Change
I first began my journey into therapy many years ago to explore and understand my sexuality. I was terrified about the thought of being gay and only wanted to get rid of the feelings that I was experiencing. My first therapist would listen thoughtfully and...
The Importance of Scheduling in Self-Care
One of the most overlooked aspects of emotional wellbeing is intentional self-care. Many people recognize that self-care is important, yet they often treat it as something to do only after responsibilities are completed. In reality, self-care should be approached with...
The Polite Face of Homophobia
The older I get, the more I realize that many people carrying homophobia do not even recognize it in themselves anymore. They think homophobia has to look loud to count. They think it has to look violent, aggressive, obvious. So they never examine the discomfort they...