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When the Things That Should Make Us Happy Don’t
There is a particular kind of confusion or disappointment that can happen when something good happens in our lives and we don’t feel the way we expected to feel. We may accomplish a goal we have worked toward for years, enter a relationship we have hoped for, move...
Imposter Syndrome: Through the Lens of a Therapist
It may come as no surprise, but therapists often hold themselves to incredibly high standards Especially when first starting out, my schooling left me in the mindset of always having the perfect intervention, to never miss important details, or to consistently know...
The Four Horseman of the Apocalypse Part: 2
In couples’ therapy, there are the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse that lead to relationships ending. These include Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. We’ve discussed the first two already, and the third and fourth of these are Defensiveness and...
The Four Horseman of the Apocalypse Part: 1
In couples’ therapy, there are the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse that lead to relationships ending. These include Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. Research has shown that these have negative impacts on a couple’s ability to resolve conflict and...
But Mom, I Look Like You
I remember the comments that seemed so ordinary at the time. Complaints in front of the mirror. Asking “does this dress make me look fat?" Pictures being avoided. Laughing off compliments. Criticizing wrinkles, cellulite, stomachs, thighs, or the way age had changed a...
The Paradox of Change
I first began my journey into therapy many years ago to explore and understand my sexuality. I was terrified about the thought of being gay and only wanted to get rid of the feelings that I was experiencing. My first therapist would listen thoughtfully and...